Updated: Mar 11
Sometimes, our friends, OR EVEN US, are blinded by what we think is love. Many people may eed to figure out on their own that their significant other is not the perfect match for them. I have made a list of points that someone can think through, and if they see that their significant other meets the criteria of these signs, then maybe they will reconsider staying with that toxic boyfriend or girlfriend.
1. They are EXTREMELY hypocritical.
I put hypocrisy as one of the first signs because I feel like it is one of the things that people tend to put on the back burner. People see it just as a "small flaw" and really don't understand how it can negatively affect them in the long wrong. It usually ends up resulting in severe manipulation. Those with significant others who are hypocritical start to question their own selves and what they live for, and they start to believe that double standards are fine... EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE NOT AT ALL. Relationships should work 50/50 and no one should be able to do or say something if they wouldn't want their partner doing it.
2. They spend more time with their friends than they do with you.
Look, I personally think it is unhealthy to always be around your significant other 24/7, because I believe we all need some personal time with our friends and family. But, with that being said, I also think it isn't right if your significant other is ALWAYS choosing to hang out with their friends rather than you. It is a clear sign that he or she doesn't value their time with you. It is also a sign of disrespect, and in a relationship, you shouldn't feel like hanging out with your significant other is a "chore." You should be willing to go out of your way to see them if you had to.
3. They blow up your complaint into a huge argument.
Communication is KEY to a healthy relationship. It is human nature to not always agree with what your significant other does or says. You should feel comfortable enough to talk to your partner if you have an issue with something. You shouldn't be scared to because you know they will overreact or start an argument over it, and you would rather just avoid the confrontation. If you want to avoid confrontation, here is an easier thing to do. DROP HIM/HER. You shouldn't feel the need to walk over eggshells for someone you should feel 100% comfortable around.
4. They take you for granted.
I hear all the time how people in relationships start to get "too comfortable." Of course we want our significant other to feel comfortable around us, but being "too comfortable" with your significant other can sometimes lead to taking the other for granted. Those who take their partners for granted start to not care what the others think because they know they aren't going anywhere. That is extremely disrespectful and inconsiderate, so if you notice your partner doing something similar to this, confront them about it or cut them out of your life. You don't deserve to be taken for granted.
5. They say they are going to "Change"....
I always hear the excuse, "Well I talked to him about it and he promised he's going to change." Either one of two things happen. They either don't change at all, or they do, but then a month later go back to their old ways. No matter who you are or how hard you try, YOU CAN NOT CHANGE SOMEONE. If someone wants to change, they have to do it for themselves.
6. They are Stubborn.
Now, being stubborn in certain instances shouldn't be a relationship breaker. Some people have strong beliefs, and if you and your partner can't respect one another's differences in beliefs, you shouldn't be together. But, I am talking about the stubborn people who REFUSE TO ADMIT WHEN THEY ARE WRONG. When you realize your partner spends more time trying to make excuses for what they have done rather than try to fix things.. that is when you should know it is TIME TO GO.