To All My Exes: I wish you the best. And I mean it.

Updated: Mar 11


No really, I mean it. I genuinely hope that any person that I have been with before has nothing but love and happiness. Now I know all my girls are going to be like, "WeIl, your exes must have made you cry and break your heart right?" And yes, yes they have. Any past relationship that I have been in has either made me cry, get mad, or feel heart broken. And while those bad moments were BAD, do they really have to define how I view those people for the rest of my life? no. People change. People grow. People make mistakes. Does that mean I would ever give any of them another chance? Definitely not. But forgiving the past, and wishing those who once hurt me all the best allows me to move on with my life. It shows that I am a bigger and better person now than I was before. It allows me to release any last thoughts I may have about my past relationships and turn the page in my life. Healing takes time. But trust me, if I could do it, so can you.

When I used to be in the healing process, I had to remind myself that at the end of the day, the guys I were with were only human. As a human, we all make mistakes. Some mistakes definitely could have been preventable but nonetheless, they were made and there is nothing that can be done about it. Why allow myself to look back on things that can't be changed? I realized that instead of devoting my energy to being bitter at the past, I would rather use my experiences to help me grow into a better woman.

I learned through the healing process to be THANKFUL for the things I have gone through in previous relationships. I can't sit and pretend that my life was miserable all the times I have been in relationships. I obviously was with these people at one point because they made me HAPPY. I obviously have some great memories with these people that I wouldn't want to forget. But with the good, there was the bad. And with the bad I learned about communication, trust, loyalty and how relationships SHOULD work. In every relationship, I even learned something new about myself. I learned that I am a listener. I learned that what doesn't kill me makes me stronger. I learned I would drop anything I was doing to help someone I cared about. I learned I love family. I also learned I have no problem popping off on someone.

I believe there is something bigger than just US out there, and that this "being" planned for my exes to be in my life, at the exact time they were in my life and the exact time they left for a REASON. With that being said, if it weren't for them, I would've never met the man I am with now. I know it sounds cliche, but I genuinely believe that everything happens for a reason. I believe I went through all that crap when I was younger because God, or whatever force it may be, was toughening my skin. Whatever it was knew I was strong enough to deal with the things I was going through, and knew that I genuinely believed that there would be a rainbow at the end of the rain storm. And it came April of 2016 for me.

I hope my exes wish the best for me as well, and that I taught them something as well. I hope they take the relationship they once has with me, and use it to make their future relationships even better than the one they had with me. But, if they choose not to. Oh well, not my problem.

So to those who may be going through the healing process right now: Let time do its thing. Believe in yourself that you can FORGIVE. Believe in yourself that you can MOVE ON and BE THE BETTER PERSON.

It may not happen over night, but with positive thoughts, you too can one day be able to say "To all my exes: I wish you the best. And I really mean it."


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