So the day that I am writing you this letter, I am 22 years old. I have no plans on having children in the near future, but I definitely feel like I am one day going to have a daughter. Now that I am an adult that has graduated college and is working on her career, I thought I'd write to you some solid pieces of advice. Things that I have learned in 22 years of living. I still have a bunch more to learn, but I thought I'd start writing some down now before I forget. In this list of advice are things friends and family have taught me, and things I have learned on my own. We will live two different types of lives, and you will learn your own lessons, but I thought I'd try to do the best I can to teach you sooner than later.
Treat others the way you'd like to be treated. This is the Golden Rule. A rule you will learn in school. I know some days this will be hard to do, but always remember to KILLEM WITH KINDNESS.
It is okay to relax. Do not overwhelm yourself with work. I know your high school and college days (if you decide to go) will be super stressful, but remember that your mental health is more important than a GPA. If you feel yourself getting overwhelmed with work, take a day to RELAX. Binge watch, eat your favorite guilty pleasures.
Speaking of Guilt, DO NOT FEEL GUILTY AND REGRETFUL. Learn from your experiences and NEVER look back.
TAKE PRIDE IN YOUR PERSONAL HYGIENE. Brush your teeth twice a day, FLOSS. Wear deodorant. Wear clothes that make you feel good! And most importantly, always show off those beautiful pearly whites :)
If you don't like something. Do something about it. Don't complain about how change should be made if you aren't going to try to do anything about it.
Always hug, kiss and talk to your family whenever you can. You never know who needs to hear that they are loved. You also never know when it's the last time you'll see them.
Back to part of Rule 4. Smile! Smile at acquaintances, smile at strangers, smile at EVERYONE AND ANYONE. So many people nowadays care more about perfecting their duck face rather than their smile.
Always say Thank You and You're Welcome. You will find out very quickly that manners are hard to come by. Having manners will make you stand out and get you a long way, trust me.
Don't look down on anyone. We are all human. We are all put on this Earth for our own reasons. You are no better or worse than anyone else. Treat everyone EQUALLY.
Listen to people. Don't just hear that someone is talking to you, actually LISTEN to what they are saying. Every person you meet knows something that you don't know. Learn from them. You never know when you'll need certain information.
Don't say something about someone if you wouldn't say it to that person's face. I have been around a lot of phony people. Don't become one of them. If you have a problem, address it, don't hide a computer screen or talk behind someone's back.
Don't trust someone to bring you your happiness. At the end of the day, only YOU can provide your own happiness. Find activities and hobbies that bring you joy and don't give it up.
Do not be afraid of getting your heartbroken. Everyone goes through heart break of some kind. YOU WILL SURVIVE, TRUST ME. At first you feel like your world is crashing around you, and you don't know how you will ever make it out, but you will. And you will find that someone that makes you realize why it didn't work out with other people.
DO NOT TAKE BACK SOMEONE WHO HAS CHEATED ON YOU. I don't know if I fully believe in the term, "Once a cheater, always a cheater," but hunny you deserve so much better than that. Don't think that you can "change him/her." Just move on.
At some point, you may look at yourself in the mirror and find something about yourself that you don't like. Just remember you aren't alone. So many girls and guys have insecurities. Never hate yourself for how you look. Embrace your uniqueness. The thing you may not like on yourself may be the thing your future soulmate absolutely fell in love with you for.
Don't surround yourself with negative people. Only people that are below you are going to try to pull you down. By "people below you" I mean people who are miserable and negative and don't care about self help and improving their lives. Always live to be better than the day before.
Never settle. Always set new goals for yourself. You can do whatever you put your mind to, I promise you that.
Please don't make your life all about social media. Social media messed with my head a lot. For a while it made me feel like I had to act and look a certain way. Remember SOCIAL MEDIA IS A FAKE WORLD. EMBRACE THE REAL WORLD YOU LIVE IN. Limit the amount of time you are on technology and learn to embrace Mother Nature as much as you can.
Do not be afraid of cutting people out of your life who have hurt you or don't make you happy anymore. People grow and people change and that is okay.
Don't live thinking "What If"
BE HONEST. If someone invites you out and you don't want to go, be honest and say "No thank you." You don't owe anyone an explanation. This is YOUR life. Use your time on Earth doing things that make YOU happy.
"Dreams Don't Work Unless You Do." This is mommy's favorite quote.
Apologize when you do something wrong. Do not be stubborn. The strongest of people are the people who can own up to their mistakes and learn and grow from them.
Not everyone is going to like you. Sorry, but that is the truth. You may have done nothing at wrong, but that is just the way life is. Don't try to make everyone like you or try to make everyone be your friend. Care about the people around you who love and support you, and forget the rest.
Never be afraid to ask for more advice. I wish I had someone I felt comfortable enough with to ask everything and anything to. I promise not to judge you, I promise not to yell at you. At the end of the day, I just want what's best for you.
I'm busy working on my blog posts. Watch this space!