Alright guys... so it's 2019. As many of you probably know, the dating game has completely changed. To be honest, I would be scared to go back into the dating world with the way dating is nowadays. Most people nowadays meet on the Internet, a place where you only show the side of you only you want people to see. Not only meeting someone different than what you once thought they were is one problem but now with online dating with now, people are able to move onto the next with the swipe of a finger. Rather than focus on solving problems and issues with our significant others, many decide the quick fix is to find someone new, mostly by way of social media.
Alright, done with that rant. The reason why I am writing this post is because recently one of my girls asked me, "Who Should Pay On The First Date." My response, thinking it would be an answer everyone would agree on, was completely shot down with surprise. So, here is my OPINION on first dates:
WHOEVER ASKS THE OTHER OUT ON THE DATE SHOULD BE PAYING.
I don't care if that means the guy OR the girl pays. It is 2019, men and women should not automatically assume the man is paying for the date, and men and women should also realize that in 2019 women are able to pay for things on our own. As a society we have come a long way in regards to work opportunity. (It is not perfect, but we are getting better.)
If you both are under mutual agreement that you are on a date, whoever invited the other person out should pay. But, if it has not been made clear that the meet up was in fact a date, be prepared with some cash to split the bill. You can't be surprised if he or she asks if it is okay to split the bill if it was not established you were being taken out on a date. Don't be that person that plays dumb and then makes the other person pay for you because you expected them to pay even though it was never established who was paying for what. Better to be safe than sorry. (I personally think it looks better when the other person brings money because it also shows financial independence)
If you are asking someone out on a date, because you are interested in getting to know them, but can't afford to pay for two, start good communication early in the relationship and let he or she know where your mind is at and let the know beforehand you will want to split the bill. I know it sounds super awkward, but it's even more awkward when you're face to face on a date YOU set up and then ask your date to split the bill with you. (Because most likely they will not have expected to pay)
Of course, if you continue to date someone and the relationship grows, you guys will begin to create a system that works for you both. Maybe bills or always split or one person pays one date and then the other person pays the other. Maybe just one person pays all the time because they want to or they are more financially comfortable than the other. Every relationship is different.
We live in the 21st century and we need to realize that people were raised different ways and we can't expect or assume they were raised with the same beliefs. THIS IS EXACTLY WHY COMMUNICATION IS KEY.
I'm busy working on my blog posts. Watch this space!